special needs

episode forty-three: Relationships Part 5 - Your Adult Relationship

Fringy kids can wreak havoc on any adult relationship.  Join Heather and Jon in this episode, as they talk a bit about relationships and ways to keep your primary adult relationship strong.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Alan Partridge, bit one
     Gifted, the movie

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episode forty-one: Relationships Part 3 - Family Structure

Oh families!  They are lovely and complicated and so much more when impacted by fringy-ness.  In this episode, Heather & Jon discuss the structures of families.  In particular, they respond to an article that has been circling the internet about the roles of children within a family.  Share your thoughts on the Fringy Bit Facebook page.

Mentioned in this episode:
     The Article

episode thirty-seven: Love & Sibling Stuff

As if parenting a fringy kiddo isn't complicated enough, us fringy families often choose to have other kiddos to love and raise.  Sometimes these kiddos mimic fringy behaviors.  Sometimes these kiddos make it quite clear that the differing expectations feels incredibly unfair.  And always these kiddos need to be loved in their very own unique way.  In this episode, Heather and Jon talk about ways to meet each of our children's needs and how to normalize loving them each uniquely.

Mentioned in this episode:
     The 5 Love Languages
     The Sibling Slambook
    Views From Our Shoes   

episode thirty-three: Asking for Help

Having a fringy family (autism, spd, giftedness,adhd, differently wired, 2e) necessitates asking for help.  And yet, often it seems asking for help is extremely difficult to do.  Listen in as Heather & Jon talk about reasons we find it difficult accepting help and strategies to begin changing this.


Mentioned in this episode:
     Black Sails
     Amazon Prime & Kindle Unlimited
     book - The Butterfly Garden

episode thirty-one: All Things IEP

Seeing as fringy kids are differently wired (gifted, 2e, ASD, SPD, etc), they often learn differently than more typical kiddos.  This can make navigating the public school system complicated.  Heather & Jon are excited to have Toni Chambers from Wisconsin Family Ties join us in this episode to explain the IEP (individualized education plan) process and provide tips for parents to utilize to garner effective working relationships with school while determining best strategies to help their fringy kid learn.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Wisconsin Family Ties
    Wisconsin Family Ties Facebook
     504 Plans
     Wright's Law
     WI Specific Information on IEP Process
     Ross Greene
     Book:  Tidying Up

episode twenty-five: education

In this episode, Heather & Jon discuss educating our Fringy Kids.  Gifted, special needs, children with autism or sensory processing disorder have unique needs throughout their lives, and their learning and education is no different.  

Mentioned in this episode:
     The Accountant

episode twenty-four: Sensory Intensity

In this episode, Heather & Jon discuss the hypersensitive sensory systems that many gifted individuals can experience.  We consider strategies to help regulate these crazy sensual experiences of our gifted kiddos and ourselves!

Mentioned in this episode:  
     Engelbert Humperdinck (& his songs - he's still singing!)

Bonus Bit #3

In this Bonus Bit, Heather and Jon discuss the question of twice exceptionality - how do we get our 2e kids identified and connected with the appropriate services.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Hoagies' Gifted
     Misdiagnosis & Dual Diagnosis of Gifted Children & Adults

Not mentioned in the episode, but another valuable resource:  

episode eighteen - for the days you just don't want to be a fringy parent

We all have days when we'd simply like to "tag out" of parenting.  In this episode, Heather and Jon talk about one of those days and consider strategies to help those days go as best as possible, or at the very least, to rebound from those days successfully.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Sensory Subscription Box
     Power Poses
     WATG Conference, October 13 & 14, 2016

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Bonus Bit #2

In this bonus episode, Heather & Jon address a bit's question about finding support.  We explore how to know when more formal support, such a therapy, is warranted, and how to find the right providers.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Listing of State Gifted Associations
     SENG Provider List

Helpful Resources to Learn More about Giftedness, for yourself or to share with your therapist:
     Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnosis of Gifted Children and Adults
     Living with Intensity
    A Parent's Guide to Gifted Children

episode fourteen - They Just Don't Understand

In this episode, Heather & Jon discuss the reality that family and friends without a differently wired kid, simply don't understand.  Sadly, this can result in well-meaning loved ones making some misguided and unhelpful suggestions or comments.  Listen as Heather and Jon talk through how to deal with this.

Mentioned in this episode:
     Chew Beads
     "Car Repair - My Own Private Hell" from www.homeschooling2e.com
     Jon would also like it know that he was referring to Ed Harris' character from Apollo 13!  :)

episode thirteen - the insatiably curious

In lucky episode number 13, Heather & Jon discuss all things intellectually intense.  Learn strategies to keep your own sanity while you're raising a child who asks questions morning, noon, and night.  Additionally, hear about a fantastic product and a fantastically awful trip to the doctor!

Mentioned in this episode:
     Nesel Pack
     Boorman Counseling

episode twelve - Fringy Siblings from a Grown-Ups Perspective

Here's the second part of our 2 episode series on being a sibling of a Fringy Kid.  In this episode, Heather & Jon are joined by Katie Robinson, licensed mental health therapist with Catalyst Mental Health in Bloomington, MN.  Katie also has the distinction of being both a parent of a Fringy Kid, and a sibling of a Fringy Kid.

Mentioned in this episode:

Catalyst Mental Health
Book - Raising a Sensory Smart Child
Book - The Out of Sync Child has Fun

episode eleven - Fringy Siblings from a Kid's Perspective

Siblings of Fringy Kids have their own unique needs and experiences.  This episode is the first of a 2-part series in which Heather & Jon interview Fringy Sibs.  In this one, we interview Cub, who shares his perspective as an 11 year old big brother to a KBear who has sensory processing disorder and traits of autism.

Mentioned in this episode:
Zones of Regulation

episode ten - guilt

The Fringy Bit welcomes Brian Burns of Burns Family Consulting to the podcast!  Brian is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists and talks to Heather and Jon about ways to manage guilt effectively.

Mentioned in the Show:
     Burns Family Consulting offices in Hudson, WI & Woodbury, MN; burnstherapy@gmail.com
     My Name is Asher Lev
     There is an upside to mosquitoes . . . learn what it is here

Everything will be ok in the end. If it’s not ok, it’s not the end.
— Anonymous

episode nine - Why won't you just SIT STILL!!!

This episode focuses on the joys and challenges of psychomotor intensity.  Heather & Jon will guide you through strategies to help you tolerate (and appreciate) your constantly moving fringy kid (gifted, autism, spd, 2e, differently wired).

Mentioned in this episode:
     101 Homeschool Ideas, Brian Ricks (episode 85 for dinner game ideas)
     Therapy Shoppe (for fidgets & more!)
     Cosmic Yoga
     goNoodle Brain Breaks
     SENG Misdiagnosis Initiative

episode seven - self-compassion

As parents, we are often our own worst critics.  Listen to Heather and Jon discuss the practice and benefits of self-compassion.  Parenting our fringy kids (gifted, autistic, special needs, spd, twice exceptional, differently wired), gives us many opportunities to practice the art of self-compassion!

Mentioned in this episode:
     Dr. Kristin Neff's Work on Self-Compassion


episode five - Fun??

In this episode, Heather and Jon talk about fringy fun.  In reality, they discuss the fact that being gifted, being autistic, being differently wired can actually feel like the fun gets sucked right out of life, and how can we, as parents, cope with that.

Mentioned in this episode:

          seat belt covers